It’s frustrating isn’t it?
You’ve set big goals for your life. You’re dreams are admirable.
But you’re not getting anywhere.
What’s the problem?
You’re not lazy, you’re exhausted after each day.
It’s not motivation, you’re inspired by others who’ve chased down their dreams.
It’s not your confidence, you know you’re capable, you know you’ve got what it takes, you feel success within your grasps.
What is it then?
If it’s not your work ethic, attitude or willpower, why haven’t you reached success?
The biggest reason: You need a change of perspective.
In other words, your idea of success sucks.
It’s not your fault – We’re raised with a narrow-minded view of success implanted in our brains and told anything that doesn’t fit the protocol is considered failure.
We’re taught to define success by the size of our home, price of our car, or the money in our bank account.
Truth is, you don’t need any of that to become successful.
If I knew in high school by 22 I’d be living in a van on the outskirts of Las Vegas, working part time with a solar company and using my free time to grow my business, I would say my life must be a complete joke.
Yet that’s me today and I love every bit of it. My income exceeds my expenses, every night I sleep under the stars and I focus most of my day on helping others reach their goals.
I changed my idea of success and success found me.
7 Brutally Honest Reasons Why You Aren’t Successful (And How To Fix Them Right Now)
There are plenty of reasons we aren’t successful. Most are boring and repetitive: You lack experience, have crappy genes, need more money.
If you want those same mundane reasons you’re in the wrong place, you won’t find them here.
Instead, we’re after results. Whenever I accomplish one of my goals I feel a tingling sensation in my body so strong it makes me cringe.
I want you to feel that tingle.
And it starts with changing your perspective.
You’re Still Using Someone Else’s Definition For Success
Your life’s not the same as everyone else. You have your own set of values, beliefs, goals, and your own body to store it all into.
So why are you wasting your time using the same idea for success as everybody else?
In Tony Robbins Ultimate Success Formula he says, “Being clear about exactly what you want is the first and most fundamental place you need to go to make anything better.”
I couldn’t have said it better myself.
Decide on what you want and that’s you’re definition of success. Forget what anyone else thinks.
My idea of success is helping others, living below my means, and growing as a human every single day.
It’s your life, define it.
You’re Afraid To Ask For Help
For some reason there’s a belief the road to success is an unmarked path in the woods no one’s ever been down and if you’re lucky enough to find your way out you’ll be successful.
What a load of crap.
In Napoleon Hill’s famous book, Think And Grow Rich, he declares “It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed.”
He wrote that in 1937, millions have since used his advice to reach levels of success they never before thought possible. (You can grab a free pdf of his book here)
The easiest way to grow is helping others grow, it’s only seems counter-intuitive because we’ve been raised to think there’s not enough wealth to share with everyone.
If you’re interested in only growing yourself, or think to be successful you have to do it alone you’re missing the point completely.
Which brings us to our next reason.
You Want Success For Selfish Reasons
Everyone has a bit of selfishness inside and it’s good to express those emotions. If you spent your life only pleasing others you’d die miserable.
But if your ideas for success only make your life better you’ll never be successful.
In a study from The Scientific American on the side effects of greed and generosity, they found generosity keeps our body healthy while greed brings stress and produces cortisol, a stress induced chemical.
The more you gain the more you have to lose. If you only want success to better yourself greed will catch up to you. You’ll be rich in dollars but broke in joy, love, and passion, except for accumulating more money.
Now you see why a new car and a big house is a lame definition of success?
If I’m not making the world better I’ve let other things disrupt my goals and need to refocus my vision.
Turn your attention to leaving the planet you call home a little better than it was when you got here and you’ll never lose focus of success.
Jason Fried, author of Rework, calls it ‘making a dent in The Universe.”
Big or small, leave a dent that lives long after you’re gone.
You’re Schedule Sucks
I know, the thought of micro-managing your life sounds like torture.
I used to think the same way, until I realized I wasn’t getting anything done.
I was staying busy – doing laundry, answering email, checking twitter, but theirs a massive difference between busy and productive.
Author J.R.R Tolkien said it best, “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.”
If you don’t take control of your time and decide what needs to get done, someone else will do it for you.
Scott Dinsmore from Live Your Legend created an awesome weekly planning process you can get for free that turns scheduling into a ritual that’s become one of my favorite parts of every week.
By taking an hour a week to mark what’s important on your calendar you gain clarity over the steps your taking (or not taking) to become successful.
If it’s on your schedule, it gets done. Plain and simple.
You’ve Stopped Growing Yourself
One of the biggest misconceptions about success is once you’ve reached your destination you’re set for life.
It’s just another lie society has spread for years.
Once you become successful you can still lose everything. People who gain something they’ve never had have no idea what to do with it.
And they lose it.
In his book Laws Of Lifetime Growth, author Dan Sullivan interviews business owner Dan Schmidt who says to avoid growth atrophy he asks himself,
“If everything I’ve done until now is only the beginning, what’s next?”
Put another way, everything you’ve learned is just a spec of the information floating around the Universe. There’s always room for growth.
It doesn’t matter if your trying to get in shape, start a business, or learning to cook. If you’re learning, you’re growing.
Develop a curiosity for all things in the world and you’ll never have to worry about lack of growth in your life.
You’re Still Looking For Short Cuts Or Get Rich Quick Schemes
The only short cut you’ll ever need is so useful it puts any other short cut to shame and I can give it to you right now.
There are no shortcuts.
Don’t believe me? Take it from Richard Branson, one of the richest, most successful people in the world,
“If you spend your time looking for shortcuts, you will find one – right out of business.”
Get rich quick schemes are about stealing from many to make a few insanely rich.
Is that the type of person you want to be? Is becoming rich what’s most important?
If your goal’s to lose weight, would you really be satisfied taking weight loss pills that destroy your organs instead of committing to diet and exercise.
Short cuts are for toxic people who only care about themselves.
That’s not who you are.
Be real, and do it right. It may take longer, but you’re better off in the end.
You’re Terrified To Commit Yourself To Being Successful
The reason people are so afraid to commit is because they have no idea what will happen.
If you fail, what will people think of you? Or worse, if you succeed how will you handle all the new found pressure?
In Four Hour Work Week, Tim Ferriss says that “People will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.”
People would rather live an unhappy life and never reach their goals because they’re too afraid to leave their comfort zone.
If you’re going to become successful you have to commit, and it’s not as simple as declaring a pledge.
Commitment is the secret ingredient to creating a meal others will replicate over and over using your exact recipe, yet it’ll never taste as good as when you made it.
Because the secret ingredient is love.
Being successful is more than money, status, or even reaching your goals. Those are mere by-products of true success – Great to have, but not as valuable as what true success is all about.
If you haven’t noticed, the ones who achieve true success love what they do. No matter how simple or complicated, easy or hard, they love it with a burning passion.
True success is about falling in love with the process every step of the way.
It’s about loving what you do.
It’s about loving your failures.
It’s about loving your triumphs.
It’s about loving all those who help you along the way.
But most of all, it’s about loving yourself.
They say an overnight success takes years of hard work behind the scenes.
Reading this article won’t bring you fame tomorrow, but implementing these strategies into your daily life will carve the path to achieving your most desirable goals.
So let me ask you, are you ready to commit to your wildest dreams? To helping others, to lifetime growth, to defining success, and to loving yourself?
Then leave a comment and share your story,
I can’t wait to hear it.
George Mortimer packed all his possessions into his van in search for a life of freedom. His mission is to motivate people like you to create more freedom in your life. You can find out more about his journey on Twitter.
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